So, you’re interviewing for a new job. Or you are going on a date with someone for the first time. Naturally, you feel a bit nervous, so you ask your friend for some advice and they dispense that old adage: “You’ll be fine. Just be yourself.” In her TED Talk The Art of Being Yourself, Caroline McHugh contemplates the ridiculousness of this little piece of advice. People will tell you to “just be yourself” as if that is the easiest thing in the world and as if it is a completely novel idea that you haven’t considered. However, as most of us know, if it were simple to “just be ourselves”, most of us would just do it and reap the benefits.
In this blog post, Chantal discusses the situations in which it is bad advice to “just be yourself” and the steps you need to follow to allow your real self” to work for you. […]
